Get rid of unfounded, chronic guilt?
«If you learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy guilt, you can handle bad guilt better.»
Getting rid of unhealthy emotions requires a change in the basic conditions.
«This is how I function,» someone claims. if you torment yourself with a guilty conscience for no reason,
its the opposite pattern of what you go for. Talk yourself down is a behavior that will keep you down.
Chronic guilt prevents you from being you, or becoming who you really should be. It puts a lid on your
personality. Bad conscience is as much you as a cancerous tumor is the cancerous one.Most people know deep down that they are not bad people. Still, we pepper ourselves with a
guilty conscience. What is the fuel for this?Some people put it this way: “I fill my brain with the self-torture of things that are unimportant.
«I am strict with myself, and it is difficult to do anything about it.»Destructive thinking patterns that peppers and bothers many, because you simply do not deserve better.
If you recognize yourself, then you get good news here: It’s probably completely wrong. You’re not alone either.
Surprisingly many people feel this way, or have felt this way.Psychologists happily help to break down the guilt illusions and «common ground»
of thoughts that flow throughout the human global book .If the guilt gnaws, it should be because you have done something wrong. If you have done something wrong
it will be natural to apologize and try to do something wrong right again. Feel free to meet someone else with
something good. If so, try to act. Your bad conscience may be healthy and should be listened to.If there really is nothing to repair, or it would be strange to apologize to someone, then it is most likely only you who
are torment yourself.
Work away from bad conscience without any reasonIf another person had done (or not done) the same thing
that you give yourself a bad conscience for –
how would you feel or think about him / her? Would you advise
them to continue to torture themselves?If the answer is no: Take responsibility for giving different rules for
yourself and others, an exit the internal discrimination
regime and decide to practice a more humane attitude towards yourself.If the answer is clear: It will often be necessary to do some work to relate to what you yourself really think and feel
about the parent’s severity in order to break with it. It often requires getting in touch with how painful, troublesome and
frustrating it actually has been. Such work can be demanding to do alone.Constant guilt – how would someone else react?
How would someone you look up to react if he / she was in your shoes? Would they also start blaming themselves?
If so, maybe there is something you need to look at. If not: why punish yourself more severely than others?
Let in the discrimination regime again? Is there anyone in your heart you are obedient to, or imitating, in your self-strictness?
If so: start relating to what you really think about it.
Ask a friend!
«What a brilliant aid it is – if we trust a genuin friends advice. Say first:
don’t say things that please me. As everyone else, I carry my «blind
spots» and I want to take full responsibility for my actions. Explain the matter and ask
if you should have a bad conscience and do something about the situation. Note the
ways in which you may attempt to disqualify supportive statements.»Are you misinterpreting?
You think you have done harm and feel guilty. But double check: Have I really done any harm?
Often it can be old «forms» that control the way we perceive other people’s reactions.
Your mother may have been easily broken by a crooked word, but your girlfriend may
tolerate you canceling an appointment?Avoid disaster thinking.
If you should have done damage – how bad can it really be? Avoid disaster thinking.
Ask the question: What is the worst that can happen? Often it is not as bad as you automatically are.
Disasters are rare. Are there other, more likely outcomes? Focus on everything that remains,
that is untouched.Accept that you get false alarms
As an overactive smoke alarm. Even if you feel you have done something wrong,
it is often wrong. If you really know this, you have to take responsibility for it and
remind yourself of it when the old automatics will push you out into the cold.Antidote to chronic guilt – makes others responsible.The problem of chronic guilt
for no reason comes often from excessive responsibility.You take responsibility for other people’s stuff. This may be because it is difficult to hold
others accountable. Be willing to hold other people accountable. Have expectations that
people actually have to deal with you and yours. Other people are primarily responsible for
carrying their lives and their pain. Making demands andexpecting something from someone
is in many ways a respectful act. Ultimately, making others irresponsible
becomes a disservice. Do you understand others to the death? How far are you willing to
go before you get annoyed with others, while quickly exposing yourself to attacks?Guilt: Feeling or Defense?
Is it possible that a bad conscience covers other emotions? What do you really think about what
the other person did? Could it be that you really dislike it? Do you have a badconscience because you
were annoyed with someone you feel you should not be annoyed with? Many people with chronic guilt for
no reason have significant inhibition of aggression.
Activation of one’s own borderline feelings in itself creates both anxiety and guilt.Intensive depth therapy is a method that works to raise your emotional tolerance.
AND COGNITIVE GROUP WORK, every member will teach you something, and growt together is
underrated.Guilt for thoughts words and deeds?
Is the bad conscience about something I actually have done, or just something I have felt or
thought? We often punish ourselves for things as if we were actually doing something –
there should be a high ceiling for impulses, desires,
feelings and thoughts for everything we do nothing with. For example, thoughts that it would be good if someone
close to us, but with whom we have a difficult relationship, should disappear. It is more common than you might
think and a taboo that is important to PERCEIVE.Unfounded chronic guilt -Help yourself in the process.
Are you struggling to figure out these things: Have compassion for yourself and try to
maintain a constructive and positive focus as far as possible. Avoid repetitive pondering,
go properly into the process, but also properly out of it. If you do not proceed on your own,
you must add something new to the process. No one should go through life with a guilty
conscience for no reason.
Be aware of bad conscience, it can become a worm that eat you internals…..
Did reading this make sense to you, and if not, you can leave a comment and or elaborate with
an input or what is missing in context to the topic of relationships? Illustration Tone Berg Canvadesign (2024)
